Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

opinionated

outgoing

nurturing

inventive

perfectionist

indecisive

power-oriented

self-centered

dominant

sympathetic

tolerant

enthusiastic

suspicious

naive

unsure

self-serving

contented

decisive

playful

loyal

arrogant

silently stubborn

flighty

worry-prone

reliable

assertive

sociable

kind

a teaser

self-critical

bossy

reluctant

easygoing

action-oriented

analytical

carefree

obnoxious

critical of others

overly sensitive

shy

determined

a good listener

detail conscious

a party person

demanding

unmotivated

vain

unforgiving

responsible

considerate

idealistic

happy

passive

impulsive

moody

impatient

respectful

strong-willed

patient

fun-loving

directionless

an interrupter

unrealistic

argumentative

even-tempered

trusting

dependable

independent

forgetful

frequently depressed

aggressive

ambivalent

optimistic

gentle

deliberate

powerful

undisciplined

insensitive

judgmental

boring

agreeable

emotional

popular

logical

unenthusiastic

always right

uncommitted

guilt prone

spontaneous

pragmatic

accepting

well-behaved

merciless

thoughtful

a show-off

uninvolved

diplomatic

sincere

lively

task-oriented

lazy

loud

hard to please

tactless

a performer

creative

adaptable

direct

calculating

self-righteous

disorganized

self-deprecating

pleasant

confident

charismatic

disciplined

unproductive

intimidating

afraid to face facts

careful

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Approved of and right.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.