Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

outgoing

opinionated

nurturing

perfectionist

indecisive

self-centered

power-oriented

enthusiastic

dominant

tolerant

sympathetic

self-serving

unsure

naive

suspicious

loyal

playful

contented

decisive

flighty

silently stubborn

arrogant

worry-prone

reliable

kind

assertive

sociable

reluctant

self-critical

bossy

a teaser

analytical

carefree

easygoing

action-oriented

overly sensitive

obnoxious

critical of others

shy

a good listener

detail conscious

a party person

determined

demanding

unforgiving

vain

unmotivated

considerate

happy

responsible

idealistic

impulsive

passive

impatient

moody

fun-loving

respectful

strong-willed

patient

directionless

unrealistic

an interrupter

argumentative

trusting

dependable

even-tempered

independent

aggressive

ambivalent

forgetful

frequently depressed

gentle

deliberate

powerful

optimistic

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

judgmental

agreeable

popular

logical

emotional

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

always right

guilt prone

accepting

pragmatic

well-behaved

spontaneous

uninvolved

thoughtful

a show-off

merciless

task-oriented

sincere

diplomatic

lively

tactless

loud

hard to please

lazy

a performer

creative

adaptable

direct

disorganized

calculating

self-righteous

self-deprecating

charismatic

confident

disciplined

pleasant

afraid to face facts

intimidating

careful

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Acceptance and safety.