Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

opinionated

nurturing

outgoing

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

indecisive

dominant

tolerant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

self-serving

naive

unsure

suspicious

decisive

loyal

contented

playful

silently stubborn

flighty

arrogant

worry-prone

kind

assertive

sociable

reliable

self-critical

a teaser

bossy

reluctant

action-oriented

easygoing

analytical

carefree

overly sensitive

critical of others

obnoxious

shy

a party person

a good listener

determined

detail conscious

vain

unforgiving

demanding

unmotivated

responsible

idealistic

happy

considerate

passive

impulsive

moody

impatient

respectful

strong-willed

fun-loving

patient

an interrupter

unrealistic

argumentative

directionless

dependable

independent

even-tempered

trusting

forgetful

ambivalent

frequently depressed

aggressive

deliberate

gentle

powerful

optimistic

undisciplined

judgmental

insensitive

boring

emotional

logical

agreeable

popular

uncommitted

always right

unenthusiastic

guilt prone

pragmatic

accepting

spontaneous

well-behaved

thoughtful

a show-off

merciless

uninvolved

sincere

task-oriented

diplomatic

lively

loud

tactless

lazy

hard to please

adaptable

creative

a performer

direct

calculating

self-deprecating

disorganized

self-righteous

confident

disciplined

pleasant

charismatic

intimidating

careful

unproductive

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Approved of and right.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Security, creativity, and purpose.