Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

opinionated

outgoing

nurturing

perfectionist

self-centered

power-oriented

indecisive

tolerant

dominant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

self-serving

suspicious

naive

unsure

decisive

loyal

contented

playful

flighty

arrogant

silently stubborn

worry-prone

reliable

kind

assertive

sociable

bossy

reluctant

self-critical

a teaser

action-oriented

analytical

carefree

easygoing

obnoxious

overly sensitive

shy

critical of others

determined

detail conscious

a party person

a good listener

vain

unforgiving

demanding

unmotivated

responsible

happy

considerate

idealistic

moody

impatient

passive

impulsive

patient

respectful

strong-willed

fun-loving

directionless

an interrupter

unrealistic

argumentative

dependable

trusting

even-tempered

independent

aggressive

forgetful

ambivalent

frequently depressed

deliberate

optimistic

powerful

gentle

judgmental

boring

insensitive

undisciplined

popular

agreeable

emotional

logical

always right

guilt prone

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

accepting

spontaneous

well-behaved

pragmatic

uninvolved

merciless

a show-off

thoughtful

lively

diplomatic

sincere

task-oriented

tactless

loud

lazy

hard to please

direct

a performer

creative

adaptable

self-righteous

calculating

disorganized

self-deprecating

confident

disciplined

charismatic

pleasant

intimidating

unproductive

careful

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Fight back with facts and anger.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

As a child, I was:

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Acceptance and safety.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.