Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

nurturing

outgoing

opinionated

indecisive

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

enthusiastic

dominant

tolerant

sympathetic

naive

suspicious

self-serving

unsure

decisive

loyal

playful

contented

arrogant

silently stubborn

worry-prone

flighty

assertive

sociable

reliable

kind

self-critical

bossy

reluctant

a teaser

action-oriented

analytical

easygoing

carefree

shy

overly sensitive

obnoxious

critical of others

a good listener

a party person

determined

detail conscious

unmotivated

demanding

vain

unforgiving

idealistic

happy

considerate

responsible

passive

moody

impulsive

impatient

patient

respectful

fun-loving

strong-willed

argumentative

an interrupter

directionless

unrealistic

even-tempered

trusting

dependable

independent

forgetful

frequently depressed

ambivalent

aggressive

gentle

powerful

deliberate

optimistic

boring

undisciplined

judgmental

insensitive

popular

emotional

agreeable

logical

uncommitted

guilt prone

always right

unenthusiastic

accepting

well-behaved

spontaneous

pragmatic

uninvolved

merciless

a show-off

thoughtful

lively

task-oriented

sincere

diplomatic

tactless

lazy

hard to please

loud

adaptable

a performer

creative

direct

self-righteous

calculating

disorganized

self-deprecating

disciplined

charismatic

pleasant

confident

intimidating

afraid to face facts

unproductive

careful

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

When I fail, I feel:

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

If someone crosses me:

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Approved of and right.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Acceptance and safety.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.