Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

outgoing

inventive

opinionated

nurturing

perfectionist

self-centered

indecisive

power-oriented

dominant

sympathetic

tolerant

enthusiastic

suspicious

naive

unsure

self-serving

contented

loyal

decisive

playful

flighty

worry-prone

arrogant

silently stubborn

kind

assertive

reliable

sociable

reluctant

self-critical

bossy

a teaser

easygoing

action-oriented

analytical

carefree

overly sensitive

critical of others

shy

obnoxious

a good listener

determined

a party person

detail conscious

vain

unmotivated

demanding

unforgiving

happy

idealistic

responsible

considerate

moody

impatient

impulsive

passive

patient

respectful

strong-willed

fun-loving

unrealistic

argumentative

an interrupter

directionless

dependable

independent

trusting

even-tempered

ambivalent

aggressive

frequently depressed

forgetful

powerful

optimistic

deliberate

gentle

boring

judgmental

undisciplined

insensitive

agreeable

emotional

logical

popular

guilt prone

uncommitted

always right

unenthusiastic

well-behaved

pragmatic

spontaneous

accepting

thoughtful

merciless

a show-off

uninvolved

lively

task-oriented

sincere

diplomatic

loud

lazy

tactless

hard to please

adaptable

creative

direct

a performer

calculating

self-righteous

disorganized

self-deprecating

confident

pleasant

charismatic

disciplined

intimidating

unproductive

careful

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

As an adult, I am:

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

As a parent, I am:

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

Admired by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.