Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

nurturing

outgoing

inventive

opinionated

indecisive

self-centered

power-oriented

perfectionist

sympathetic

dominant

enthusiastic

tolerant

self-serving

unsure

naive

suspicious

playful

loyal

contented

decisive

flighty

worry-prone

silently stubborn

arrogant

kind

sociable

assertive

reliable

self-critical

a teaser

reluctant

bossy

carefree

analytical

action-oriented

easygoing

overly sensitive

critical of others

obnoxious

shy

a good listener

detail conscious

a party person

determined

demanding

unforgiving

unmotivated

vain

happy

idealistic

responsible

considerate

impulsive

moody

impatient

passive

respectful

patient

strong-willed

fun-loving

directionless

unrealistic

argumentative

an interrupter

independent

even-tempered

trusting

dependable

forgetful

ambivalent

frequently depressed

aggressive

powerful

deliberate

optimistic

gentle

undisciplined

boring

judgmental

insensitive

agreeable

emotional

logical

popular

uncommitted

guilt prone

unenthusiastic

always right

accepting

well-behaved

spontaneous

pragmatic

merciless

uninvolved

a show-off

thoughtful

lively

sincere

task-oriented

diplomatic

tactless

hard to please

lazy

loud

adaptable

direct

a performer

creative

calculating

self-righteous

self-deprecating

disorganized

confident

pleasant

disciplined

charismatic

careful

afraid to face facts

intimidating

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is filled with people and purpose.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.