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Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.
outgoing
inventive
nurturing
opinionated
indecisive
power-oriented
self-centered
perfectionist
enthusiastic
dominant
sympathetic
tolerant
suspicious
self-serving
unsure
naive
contented
loyal
playful
decisive
flighty
worry-prone
arrogant
silently stubborn
kind
sociable
assertive
reliable
a teaser
reluctant
self-critical
bossy
action-oriented
carefree
easygoing
analytical
overly sensitive
shy
critical of others
obnoxious
determined
a good listener
detail conscious
a party person
demanding
vain
unmotivated
unforgiving
considerate
idealistic
responsible
happy
impatient
passive
moody
impulsive
patient
respectful
strong-willed
fun-loving
directionless
an interrupter
unrealistic
argumentative
independent
dependable
trusting
even-tempered
ambivalent
aggressive
frequently depressed
forgetful
powerful
deliberate
optimistic
gentle
undisciplined
insensitive
boring
judgmental
agreeable
emotional
logical
popular
unenthusiastic
always right
guilt prone
uncommitted
accepting
well-behaved
pragmatic
spontaneous
thoughtful
uninvolved
a show-off
merciless
diplomatic
lively
task-oriented
sincere
hard to please
loud
tactless
lazy
creative
a performer
adaptable
direct
calculating
self-righteous
disorganized
self-deprecating
disciplined
confident
charismatic
pleasant
careful
intimidating
afraid to face facts
unproductive
Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.
If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:
Patient, adaptable, and tactful.
Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.
Driven, direct, and delegating.
Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.
When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:
Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.
Fight back with facts and anger.
Distance myself and avoid further conflict.
Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.
For me, life is most meaningful when it:
Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.
Is task-oriented and productive.
Is filled with people and purpose.
Is free of pressure and stress.
As a child, I was:
Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.
Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.
Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.
Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.
As an adult, I am:
Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.
Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.
Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.
Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.
As a parent, I am:
Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.
Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.
Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.
Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed
In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:
Verbally stubborn about facts.
Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.
Concerned about others' feelings and principles.
Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.
If my friend was in trouble, I would be:
Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.
Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.
Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem
Supportive, patient, and a good listener.
When making decisions, I am:
Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.
Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.
Assertive, articulate, and logical.
Deliberate, precise, and cautious.
When I fail, I feel:
Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.
Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.
Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.
Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.
If someone crosses me:
I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.
I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.
I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.
I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.
Work is:
A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.
A most productive way to spend one's time.
A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.
A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.
In social situations, I am most often:
Protected by others.
Envied by others.
Admired by others.
Feared by others.
In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:
Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.
Understood, appreciated, and intimate.
Praised, having fun, and feeling free.
Approved of and right.
To feel alive and positive, I seek:
Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.
Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.
Acceptance and safety.
Security, creativity, and purpose.