Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

nurturing

opinionated

outgoing

inventive

perfectionist

power-oriented

indecisive

self-centered

tolerant

dominant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

self-serving

suspicious

naive

unsure

loyal

playful

decisive

contented

worry-prone

arrogant

flighty

silently stubborn

kind

assertive

reliable

sociable

reluctant

self-critical

bossy

a teaser

analytical

carefree

action-oriented

easygoing

shy

critical of others

overly sensitive

obnoxious

detail conscious

a good listener

a party person

determined

vain

unforgiving

unmotivated

demanding

happy

idealistic

considerate

responsible

moody

passive

impatient

impulsive

patient

fun-loving

strong-willed

respectful

an interrupter

directionless

unrealistic

argumentative

even-tempered

dependable

trusting

independent

ambivalent

forgetful

aggressive

frequently depressed

powerful

deliberate

optimistic

gentle

undisciplined

judgmental

boring

insensitive

agreeable

emotional

logical

popular

always right

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

guilt prone

accepting

well-behaved

pragmatic

spontaneous

uninvolved

a show-off

merciless

thoughtful

sincere

lively

task-oriented

diplomatic

lazy

loud

tactless

hard to please

a performer

adaptable

creative

direct

disorganized

self-righteous

calculating

self-deprecating

disciplined

confident

pleasant

charismatic

unproductive

intimidating

afraid to face facts

careful

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is filled with people and purpose.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

As a parent, I am:

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

If someone crosses me:

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Approved of and right.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.