Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

outgoing

opinionated

nurturing

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

indecisive

sympathetic

dominant

enthusiastic

tolerant

suspicious

naive

self-serving

unsure

loyal

playful

decisive

contented

flighty

worry-prone

silently stubborn

arrogant

kind

assertive

reliable

sociable

bossy

self-critical

reluctant

a teaser

analytical

carefree

easygoing

action-oriented

overly sensitive

shy

critical of others

obnoxious

a good listener

determined

a party person

detail conscious

unforgiving

demanding

vain

unmotivated

idealistic

responsible

considerate

happy

moody

impulsive

impatient

passive

respectful

patient

fun-loving

strong-willed

argumentative

unrealistic

directionless

an interrupter

even-tempered

trusting

independent

dependable

aggressive

ambivalent

forgetful

frequently depressed

gentle

optimistic

powerful

deliberate

judgmental

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

popular

agreeable

logical

emotional

guilt prone

uncommitted

always right

unenthusiastic

pragmatic

accepting

spontaneous

well-behaved

uninvolved

merciless

a show-off

thoughtful

lively

diplomatic

sincere

task-oriented

tactless

lazy

loud

hard to please

a performer

adaptable

direct

creative

calculating

disorganized

self-deprecating

self-righteous

pleasant

confident

disciplined

charismatic

afraid to face facts

unproductive

careful

intimidating

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

As an adult, I am:

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

As a parent, I am:

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

When making decisions, I am:

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.